I can’t keep going. I can’t.

You’ve probably been there too. And we have lots of company: Job, Elijah, and Jeremiah, for example.

On Mount Carmel, the Lord dramatically showed He is God and Baal was not. Elijah then slew the prophets of Baal. This was an awesome demonstration of God’s power and confirmation that Elijah was His prophet.

But then Jezebel threatened Elijah and Elijah ran for his life. He asked the Lord that he might die. “It is enough; now, O LORD, take my life, for I am not better than my fathers” (1 Kings 19:4).

Elijah decided he could not go on.

Here are some things to think about

1. Ask yourself: “Should I keep going?”

Is this what God wants you to do, or it is something you concocted?

If it is what God wants you to do, did you embellish it? Are you doing more than He asked? For example, did He ask you to make dinner, but you decided to cook a gourmet five-course meal?

Did you set, for yourself, an unreasonable time frame?

Make sure you’re working on God’s plan and not your own.

2. Ask yourself: “Am I telling myself some lies?”

Elijah did. Elijah told the Lord he wasn’t any better than his fathers. Later he said: “I have been very zealous for the LORD… And I alone am left; and they seek my life, to take it away” (1 Kings 19:10).

Elijah did not reflect on the recent events of Mount Carmel.

He was wrong that he alone was left. The Lord told him He had 7,000 in Israel.

Are you telling yourself some lies? For example:

I can’t do this.

No one cares.

God doesn’t care.

Lies, anxiety, and worry are strength sappers.

3. Ask yourself: “Am I physically exhausted?

You might be, and, if so, you need to get some rest.

Elijah was exhausted. He ran from Jezreel to Beersheba (more than 100 miles) and then went another day’s journey into the wilderness. And he lay down and slept under a juniper tree. Food (provided by God) and a rest helped him.

Without proper food and rest, “the journey is too great for you” (1 Kings 19:7).

Are you eating well? Are you resting?

I know finding a time and way to rest may be a project of its own, but rest is essential.

4. Speak truth to yourself.

When we’re hard pressed, it is easy to focus on the negatives and forget God’s glorious promises.

We have to take care what we listen to (Mark 4:24).

Remember:

God does care. He loves you so much His Son died for you.

You DO have what it takes (2 Corinthians 9:8; Philippians 4:13, 19; 2 Peter 1:3).

5. Look further ahead

Don’t focus entirely on the tasks in front of you.

We do have a race to run. It takes endurance. We should fix “our eyes on Jesus… who for the joy set before Him endured the cross…” (Hebrews 12:2).

This is a great opportunity to learn to rely on God (2 Corinthians 12:9) and to learn to be content in your circumstance (Philippians 4:11).

6. Take time for God.

Make sure you are in His Word. Make sure you are praying.

It is God who comforts the depressed (2 Corinthians 7:6-7).

God can’t refresh you if you aren’t in His presence.

7. Remember: the Lord is coming!

I sometimes wish God would give me the syllabus. I think it would be comforting to know what grade I’m in, what my classes are this term, when exams are scheduled.

Ok. So that isn’t going to happen.

How about if God gave me specific goals and objectives for the year?

Ok. So that isn’t going to happen either.

When I read Acts and the Epistles, I’m struck with how specific the Lord was with Paul.

Paul’s identity and mission

Paul was called as an apostle of Jesus Christ by the will of God, set apart for the gospel, appointed a minister and a witness, sent to preach the kingdom of God, to teach concerning the Lord Jesus Christ, and to open the eyes of the Gentiles.

Paul knew who he was, whose he was, and his God-given mission.

We know much of that as well

We know Christ calls us by name and leads us. (John 10:3)

We know we are God’s people, His sons and daughters. (Ephesians 1:5)

We know we are saints, set apart by God. (Romans 1:7)

We know we are chosen of God, holy and beloved. (Colossians 3:12)

We know we are on a Christ-led journey to eternal glory. (1 Peter 5:10)

But what are we to DO?

The work of God is to believe whom He sent. (John 6:29)

We are to love our neighbors as ourselves. (Matthew 22:39)

We are appointed to bear fruit. (John 15:16)

We were created in Christ Jesus for good works (Ephesians 2:10)

We are to follow Christ. (Matthew 16:24)

Specific gifts of service

The specifics I long for arise out of the particular gifts and ministries allotted to me by the Holy Spirit.

Each of us is given gifts and ministries. These vary, but each of them is to be used for the common good. (1 Corinthians 12:4-7)

The gifts equip each of us for the work of service, for the building up of the body of Christ. (Ephesians 4:11-13)

We are commanded to employ our own special gift in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God. (1 Peter 4:10)

Your identity and mission

[Your name], a saint chosen and called by God to Himself through our Lord Jesus Christ, holy and beloved, equipped by the Holy Spirit for the work of service, chosen to proclaim God’s excellencies, appointed to bear fruit in every good work, and to build up the body of Christ.

Things to think about:

Put your name in that last paragraph. Read it aloud. I hope it gives you a tingle.

Don’t compare what you are doing (or not doing) to anyone else. Each of us receives different gifts. We are all part of the body of Christ, but we have different functions, different areas of service.

Pray about your specific gift and how you are to use it for His glory.

How are you doing?

Are you an empty nester? Are you a widow or widower? Are you out of the work force because of job loss or retirement? Are you working, but your job doesn’t have meaning to you? Does health restrict your activity? Are you just tired of it all?

Have you lost your sense of purpose? Are you just going through the motions? Do you feel useless?

Stop Believing a Lie

Since you are reading this, you are still alive. (Duh!) Since you are alive, God has a purpose for you.

You are NOT useless. Don’t believe that lie.

God called you for a purpose

God saved you and called you to a holy calling. (2 Timothy 1:9-10)

God prepared good works for you to do (Ephesians 2:10)

God equipped you

God gave gifts to each of us. (Romans 12:6-8, 1 Corinthians 12:1-11)

There are a variety of God-given gifts, but each of us has been equipped for the common good. (Romans 12)

Don’t miss this: YOU have a gift. YOU have a purpose.

God will fulfill His purpose for you

God is at work, both within you and within the world to accomplish His purpose.

It is God who is at work in you, both to will and to work for His good pleasure. (Philippians 2:13)

God fulfills His purpose for me. (Psalm 57:2 and 138:8)

God won’t take you home until He has fulfilled His purpose for you.

“David, after he had served the purpose of God in his own generation, fell asleep … (Acts 13:36).”

David didn’t die until after he had served the purpose of God.

Things to do

To help identify your purpose and some shorter-term activities that seem God-driven, look to God. Read through the New Testament quickly looking for statements of purpose and activities that seem to be directed at you. Make a list. Do the same with the Old Testament. Pray about it.

This type of Bible reading is different than devotional reading or Bible study, both of which we should be doing. The advantage is that you identify what the Bible says about a theme. A concordance is not comprehensive enough. For example, there are many, many verses about worship that do not use the word “worship.” There are topical Bibles that can help, but the best way, by far, is to get directly into the Bible yourself. Let God speak to you through His Word. Hear from God directly about your purpose and the good works you are to be doing.

Get reoriented. Get committed.

What are you going to do today?

“KrisHoney.”

My dad often called me “KrisHoney,” saying it as all one word. I vividly remember his warmth.

Our names single us out. Being called by name means you’re not an extra in a big movie scene where you just take up space. A nameless blob in the crowd. Instead, you have a unique identity.

Being named means you are an individual. You are not like anyone else. No one, ever, is or was like you.

But think about this: God calls you by name.

You are not just one of billions to God. You have a name. You are singled out.

“See, I have called by name Bezalel…” (Exodus 31:2).

“Samuel! Samuel!” (1 Samuel 3:10).

[Christ] calls His own sheep by name and leads them. (John 10:3)

Are you one of Christ’s sheep?

If you believe in and trust Jesus Christ, you are in Jesus’ flock. Jesus calls you by name. He leads you, blesses you. He makes you lie down in green pastures. He leads you beside still waters. He restores your soul. (Psalm 23). (See Becoming a Child of God.)

We, believers, hear His voice. We know His voice. We are able to follow. When Lazarus, dead Lazarus, heard Jesus call his name, he came out of the tomb alive.

My Lord knows me by name. He calls me by name. It’s a personal relationship.

If you are a Christian, Christ knows you by name. He calls you by name. You are unique and special to Him.

We have been called to belong to Him (Romans 1:6). We are to rejoice that our names have been written in heaven (Luke 10:20).

Things to Think About

Christ calls you by name and leads you. Do you realize how special you are to Him?

Since you are named by God, how does that influence how you interpret your circumstances?

Can you live knowing, deeply knowing, you are His beloved?

One of the first days of retirement I was sitting on a deck, looking out over the water, watching the birds, my feet up on the railing.

Doing nothing.

I had no “to do” list. I had no short-term goals. I didn’t have an up-coming performance appraisal.

I hadn’t thought yet about goals in retirement.

With some dismay, I realized I would have to learn how to do nothing.

Oh oh.

While I was working, I’d thought a lot about how to work for the glory of God. I’d thought about which parts of my work role I could emphasize to serve Him.

Now what?

“Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God” (1 Corinthians 10:31).

How do I “do” retirement for the glory of God?

That answer evolved over the now five-plus years, and will continue to change, I’m sure.

But the first tasks were to rest physically, emotionally, and mentally. To slow down. God had thrown a switch and I’d been shuttled off the career track to a new one.

It took awhile to reorient. I threw myself into all the house projects I’d neglected. At one point my husband reminded me it didn’t all need to be done that day.

I am still learning what my priorities should be. And where to let go.

You are in a different spot than I am. You may still be working, or have children at home. Or even more demandingly, young children at home. You may be a caregiver for your spouse or other family member. You may be in school or retired.

In whatever situation, the principle is the same. Whatever we do, we are to do all for the glory of God.

And we cannot do it all. There are always priorities to set.

We need to remember that rest is God-given. Jesus took His disciples aside so they could rest. Rest, in a larger sense, is the theme of much of the Bible.

Here are some things for you to think about:

1) Whatever your situation, whatever you are doing, you are to do it all for the glory of God.

2) Regardless of your role(s), think about how you might tweak that role or emphasize certain parts of it in service to God.

3) Figure out how to get regular rest (physical, emotional, mental). Determine that you are going to do this. Remember, you are important to God and rest is important to you. The Sabbath was made for man, not man for the Sabbath. We can rest for the glory of God. Sometimes, we should do “nothing” for the glory of God.

Seagulls sometimes use pelicans to help them catch fish. They sit on the backs of pelicans and try to steal fish that the pelicans bring up. That’s in the “using” category rather than the “helping” category, I guess. But the pelicans tolerate it.

We can do better. We can help our friends in their quests to catch fish.

I am thinking of encouragement.

Think about a time you were working on some hard thing. You might have become tired and discouraged. But then someone came along and noticed the work you were doing, admired it, and encouraged you. I bet you had a huge boast. And were energized to keep going.

I react that way too.

A few examples

“Hezekiah spoke encouragingly to all the Levites who showed good insight in the things of the Lord. He appointed military officers … and spoke encouragingly to them … He set the priests in their offices and encouraged them in the service of the house of the LORD” (2 Chronicles 30:22; 32:6; 35:2).

“Each one helps his neighbor and says to his brother, “Be strong!” So the craftsman encourages the smelter, and he who smooths metal with the hammer encourages him who beats the anvil, saying of the soldering, “It is good”; and he fastens it with nails, so that it will not totter” (Isaiah 41:6–7).

Commandment

Fundamentally, help comes from God. But we are commanded to encourage each other.

“Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing” (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

“We urge you, brethren, admonish the unruly, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with everyone” (1 Thessalonians 5:14).

“But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called “Today,” so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin” (Hebrews 3:13).

Results

Encouragement is linked to:

Strengthening someone in action (Deuteronomy 1:38; 3:28; Isaiah 35:3-4; 41:6-7);

Hope (Romans 15:4; Hebrews 6:16-20);

Remaining true to the Lord (Acts 11:22-24);

Continuing in the faith (Acts 14:20-22);

Walking in a manner worthy of God (1 Thessalonians 2:10-12);

Building up one another (1 Thessalonians 5:11).

You matter

You matter in others’ lives. Resolve to encourage them.

Questions for you:

Think about a time you were encouraged by someone. What was your situation? How did you feel after you had been encouraged? Did being encouraged affect what you were doing? How?

Think about a time you encouraged someone else. Why did you encourage that person? What happened? How did you feel about it?

I lost a job I loved in a company I loved.

That is clearly a loss. Isn’t it? Or is it?

God moves us

Not long after I lost my job, I read, as if for the first time, Deuteronomy 6:23. Moses told the Israelites to tell their sons that the Lord brought them out of Egypt in order to bring them into the promised land.

God had to take me out of my company in order to bring me into a new “land,” a new situation with new opportunities.

Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers and spent thirteen years as a slave or in prison. That appears to be an unmitigated disaster. But when we read the entire story, we learn that God moved Joseph from Canaan to Egypt to preserve many people alive.

When we learn the whole story, we see it was a win, not a loss, even though there was suffering.

We might be comfy where we are. We might even be in a productive avenue of service.

But God, for His own reasons, has the right and the power to move us. We are His servants, and we are at His disposal.

I can’t give you God’s reasons for taking me out of my company. But, more than five years later, I am very happily retired, I have a book that is being published, and I have this web site. I have different areas of service than I did, but God has me where He wants me.

God shapes us

Another category of “loss” that is really a win is when He prunes us.

If you are bearing fruit, Jesus tells us the Father will prune you so that you might bear more fruit.

Pruning is a win. And it is certification that you had been bearing fruit.

It might not be fun at the time, but pruning is a compliment, and it is an indication we’ll bear more fruit in the future.

If God moves you or prunes you

1. Determine to look at the long run, not just the immediate issues. Try to see it through the lens of eternity.

2. Don’t bother to ask “why.” God seldom answers that question. Instead, ask Him what He wants you to do with your loss. Ask Him to give you a vision of what you might do in the future. Ask Him what He wants you to do now. Remember, “now” is really all we have. But “now” also prepares us for what He may ask in the future.

3. Praise Him. He is in control of both our losses and our wins. Our life and times are in His hands. Even though we don’t understand, we can be certain that He loves us and has a loving purpose for moving us or pruning us.

4. Remember, you have an opportunity to witness to Him in every loss and in every win. Don’t let the chance slip away.

Questions for you:

Has God moved you or pruned you?

What happened?

How are you viewing it now?

Are you waiting?

Waiting when you know what will happen

You know you will eventually get to the front of the line (see I want it NOW!).

or

You know that what the Lord promised will happen, definitely, for sure, in the Lord’s timing. That is waiting in faith based on certainty.

Waiting with uncertainty

Waiting when you don’t know what is going to happen is different. You might be waiting for the results of the bar exam, or the medical licensing exam. You might be waiting to hear about your son or daughter serving in a risky part of the world. You might be waiting for the results of a significant medical test. You don’t know what is coming. Your future will be very different depending on the outcome.

What do you do?

1. “Wait” is not a stop sign.

While what is going to happen will affect your life, it doesn’t have to affect your life today.

Today counts. We are to redeem the time. Don’t spend the time waiting in mind-numbing activities. Conventional “wisdom” says to distract yourself. But checking Facebook 54 times in a morning is different from a conversation with your spouse, brother or sister. I’m not saying Facebook is bad, but spending time doing things that disconnect you from reality is not the best choice.

Today is all we have. Following Christ happens in real time. Be intentional about how your use your time. Do today what needs to be done today. This isn’t distraction, this is consistently following the Lord. It is taking up your cross today.

Be diligent to be found by Him in peace, spotless and blameless (2 Peter 3:14).

God uses the waiting times for good in our lives.

Keep on keeping on.

The journey is important. Ask the right questions:

What are joys and opportunities right now?

What can/should I learn right now?

What are some benefits about having to wait?

2. Be realistic.

Might it be cancer? Might you have failed the exam? Might the news about your child be bad? Maybe so.

Is there something you can do to improve the chances of a favorable outcome?

Is there something you can do now to lessen how bad it might be?

What if the worst happens? How might God want you to use that? Can you picture how, with God at your side, you can handle whatever it is? Can you picture meaning in the outcome?

You might want to do some initial planning, just in case. What would honor Christ to say to the person delivering bad news? Or to your friends/family?

How can you serve others with this experience? How might you encourage others? How might you serve others by doing things that would have helped you?

Remind yourself, over and over as necessary, that if the worst happens, God is with you and God is for you.

3. Waiting is a sign to yield to God.

Pray.

Recognize God is in control not only of the outcome but also of the timing. How long you wait is His choice. What happens is His choice.

God has purpose in the process. He has a reason for making you wait. Your life and times are in His hand. (Psalm 31:15)

Choose to trust Him.

Surrender. Yield to God.

Ask the right questions.

“What should I learn from this?”

“How can I honor God in this?”

It is not asking Why? (See Why, God, Why?)

4. Manage your emotions.

God’s children are told not to worry. We are told not to be anxious. Instead, we are to pray.

Paul learned to be content in every situation. We can too.

We are to be strong and take courage. (Psalm 27:14; Psalm 31:24 and many other verses)

You can wait because you hope in Him (Psalm 39:7)

5. Remember, it will be okay. God promises. (Romans 8:28)

Remind yourself of His many promises to His children. You might want to copy out key verses and memorize them.

Questions for you:

Are you waiting for something?

How is it going?

Any tips?

“He improves every room he walks into.”

That was said about a professional athlete who maintains a cheerful attitude whether or not he is playing well.

Is that true of me? True of you?

How did those Jesus healed respond?

The gospels often do not record the response of the person Jesus healed or that of the onlookers. Where we get glimpses of reactions we see:

– rejoicing

– imploring Jesus to leave their region

– being awestruck

– glorifying God

– telling others

– conspiring to kill Jesus

– following Him

– believing in Him

– worshipping

In only one account (I think) does the healed person thank Jesus. In Luke 17, ten lepers asked Jesus to have mercy on them. Jesus told them “Go and show yourselves to the priests” (Luke 17:14).

One of the ten, “when he saw that he had been healed, turned back, glorifying God with a loud voice, and he fell on his face at His feet, giving thanks to Him” (Luke 17:15-16).

Jesus said: “Were there not ten cleansed? But the nine—where are they?” (Luke 17:17).

Christians are expected to be thankful. We should have a consistent “attitude of gratitude.” We should always be the one who gives thanks to God.

Why be thankful?

God commands His children to be thankful.

Thankfulness honors God.

God hates grumbling.

Thanksgiving reorients us to reality. We have so much to be grateful for.

Thanksgiving is the cure for grumbling, worry, impatience. It is the substitute that changes everything.

Gratitude is a witness to others.

How can you make thanksgiving a habit of life?

1. Count your blessings, both spiritual and earthly. Periodically take a defined period of time and list everything you can. At the end of every day, identify three things to be thankful for from that day.

2. As you go through your day, deliberately look for things to praise

3. When you grumble (See Who are you grumbling at?), worry, or are impatient (See I want it NOW!), choose to substitute thanksgiving for your negative reaction. Remind yourself that God is sovereign, and that He loves you. Remind yourself that you are His creation, His child, His servant. (See Becoming a Child of God.) He has a reason for the situation. You can trust Him.

My goal is to consistently overflow with gratitude (Colossians 2:7). To have a song in my heart (Ephesians 5:19). Always. In everything.

How about you?

Questions for you:

Are you a grateful person?

How can you increase the frequency or intensity of your thanksgiving?

What advice do you have for us?