Yeah, but…

Yeah but…

Yeah, but he… Yeah, but she….

We have all been in arguments or problematic situations. When we later review our own thoughts, words, and behaviors we can see how we contributed to the issue. Perhaps it was relatively minor, but it wasn’t zero. And, maybe, rather than what we did, it was what we didn’t do. Perhaps we had an opportunity to bring peace to the situation, but didn’t.

Whatever we did, however little we did, we still need to identify and confess. 

Sometimes this doesn’t feel fair. “But he, but she was the problem. He, she was 90% at fault.” (And, sometimes, when we think it through, we contributed a lot more than we first thought.)

The Lord deals with us. We are responsible for our own thoughts, words, and deeds. Whatever the Lord does with the other person or persons is not our business. 

Use the uncomfortable situation to learn, to identify how better to walk according to the Spirit. Do not focus on what the other person or persons should do differently (although you should pray for him or her, you probably need to forgive, and the Lord may ask you to have a conversation with him/her/them). Focus on what the Lord wants you to do.

So Peter seeing him said to Jesus, “Lord, and what about this man?” Jesus said to him, “If I want him to remain until I come, what is that to you? You follow Me!”  (John 21:21–22) 

Press on!